If he's still wanting to be in contact with this "other woman" then he clearly isn't ready to remove her from his life. If he is serious about wanting to be with you and wanting the marriage to work he should be on his hands and knees begging you to forgive him. He should be doing everything in his power trying to make it up to you and trying to regain your trust. But beyond all that, if he has abused you in the past... And then proceeded to have an affair... And is still not respecting your request to cut off contact with this woman... You can do SO SO SO much better. You don't need this. He isn't going to change.. You have a life to live that doesn't involve putting up with a man who doesn't know what he wants and is capable of abusing you... Relationships should make you a better person, they should be with a person who wants to make life better for you, wants to make you happy and help you grow and evolve. I have a lot to say about this subject, hits pretty close to home. I'm curious as to why you want to stay - something I've been trying to answer for myself lately.. I worry about being alone, worry about finances, stability, worry about making the wrong decision. At the end of the day, what is it that you want from life? What will bring you true happiness? Hold on to that and take advantage of all the support resources you can. We're all here for you! ***hugs***