Sorry guys. What started out as writing something simple became a full blown rant. Clarity was not an issue at the time. I just wanted to get it all out. There was alot of room for debate of who said what and if some of it was thought. I did the oposite of what I usually do. I am trying to learn to stand up to my H. Half of the reason I feel the way I do is because I give in on everything. Just like a little kid though if mom(me) quits giving in someone is gonna get mad and throw a little fit.(him) I do not expect my H to be overjoyed when I stand my ground. It is not what I usually do. What do you do with a kid who doesn't like it when he doesn't get his way. This man has gotten his way for 18 years and I'm tired of playing around. I have the tools in place to help me hold my own. (The T's) So I do know what some of this is about. I'm a mean mama and want give H everything he wants.