(((nantani girl))),

Most children discover their sexual areas at a surprisingly young age. We are, sexual beings and children discover this but do not truely know what it means other than it feels good. And this is why it is "very important" to watch young children and talk to them about keeping this private and not sharing with other children. This is how children can explore with other children and not understand what it means. They can have trepidations about it but they don't quite understand it. And this is also a part to the guilt that can come from a child that may have been molested but it also felt good so they get confused. However a preditor uses this to convince children that it is good.

As adults and now understanding what it means, this can create a tremendous sence of personal guilt and can also be a big reason that adults don't want to discuss it.

The truth is that we are designed to be sexual beings. It is nothing to be ashamed about. No, you are not a feak, you are just human. This is something that is often overlooked by many parents that have more than one child. And it isn't really "talked about" so that a parent considers this becoming a problem with their own children. Children all explore and share in many areas it is just the way they are, so it would not be surprising that without a parent discussing this to their children, it can become a strange secret that takes place. It is "never" advisable for male and female children to sleep together and even play together unsupervised. I personally made sure my own daughter was told about it, AND to not share it with other children and to make sure "not" to allow other children to touch her etc either. My daughter got the message and came an told me her friend was being invaded by her brother and his friend. The mother was a single working mom and it was normal for her to leave her son and daughter alone in a "latch key" situation. Well, it lead to something bad happening and the mother was very surprised and embarassed when I told her what was going on with her daughter.

Personally, when my daughter was growing up I had her friends come to my home to play so I could watch my child and make sure she didn't experience this problem. And I truely feel that "all" parents need to sit with their children and make sure they understand what it means and to keep it to themselves.

Open Eyes