This is really disturbing. It is really strange in that he actually had sex with you and then decided to tell you he wanted out of the marriage. I am so sorry to hear of this. There is so little commitment by people today it's so easy to get out of a marriage that any sign of trouble and one leaves. Any ebbing of the "happiness" or feelings of "love" and people think that this is an excuse or reason to divorce. It's not. I don't know how smooth or turbulent your marriage was but in any case, it should have been for better or worse (to a point, excluding of course, abuse). I was married 6 years the first time, my first wife cheated and then decided to leave when she was caught. My wife now is divorcing me because she simply doesn't want to be with me anymore, so I completely understand your feelings. My 2nd marriage was turbulent but at no such time was divorce an option in my mind.

You need a committed man to be married to. One that will stick around, but i'm not saying go out and find one, I'm just saying your husband isn't it. Clearly he wants to be free again. Probably because he's young still - not that it's a good reason, it just probably is part of it.

You do need to file. File for the divorce before he does and make sure he is held accountable to take care of the child, first, and second, since he left you - kicked you out with no means of supporting yourself, in most states this is grounds for alimony too. Fact is I don't like alimony in most cases but in yours, I think it's an exception. In fact, in my state (NC) it's called spousal support and it's usually for that specific reason, a wife that has no means to support herself at the time, and is usualy for a limited time. he needs to step up to the plate and take care of you financially until you can do it yourself - this is in addition to the child support!

Let him go, but don't let him off the hook. If he fights it, he's truly not much of a man in the first place and you deserve better. *hugs*