I disagree wih your T and I'm pretty sure my T would too. He knows I view him as a father figure and it was a very difficult session to tell him he was in that role. Now he made it clear that he can not BE my father and meet those needs. BUT he can be a positive parental (father) figure and teach me what that healthy relationship was supposed to look like. That way I can translate what I didnt have as a child into new relationships.

I don't think you are saying you want your T to BE your mother right? But I don't think there is any reason that she can't be a mother figure maybe I'm wrong idk.