Rhapsody, Hi. Oh manomanoman, false accusations used to turn me purple with frustration, into a pretzel with not knowing what to do. My brain would feel like it was exploding in angst, so I can relate.....

Giving space, time to cool down and distance for heads to settle, followed by a clear the air tete a tete, would be ideal in my book, but, I don't get to write the script (for myself, let alone others). So, learning to take care of myself became the only thing i could do. Sure enough, as I've got my own boundaries and self esteem together, stuff like this is not quite so hard on me, bitter though that is in my mouth......

Or: Is there a 3rd person who could intervene with clear information to the offended party?

Hang in there.