Has your disorder been under contol with medication at any point? I ask because I went through a time where I was on meds that weren't working and under extreme stress. It was really hard to tell what was what. My pdoc and T couldn't tell either. More recently, I have been on a more helpful med and experienced something deeply upsetting. The kind of thing that would have thrown me into depression in the past. But this time it didn't. I told my T yesterday, I'm not okay, but I'm not depressed. It was an unusual feeling for me.

That said, if you feel there is a grain of truth to what your wife said and she wasn't just trying to be mean, I'd check it out with my pdoc and/or T.

Best,
EJ