wow. this session really reminded me of where me and my T go. I appreciate my T sharing some personal info cos sometime I feel like misunderstandings are HIS fault, not mine, just cos of the completely different way we were both raised. Your T's feelings about her mother, and what can or can't be changed, sound different from my T's, because, frankly, I don't know what my T would say! I mean, I know his mom died when he was elementary school, and he had a very caring stepmom.

anyway, I am just so glad you two got this out in the open. I think it is very important for you, and that this is part of what NEEDING to be friends with her, and having her recognize you as her equal, was intuitively about for you, from the beginning. no wonder you wanted to slap her. you effin told her so.