I am in much the same place as you find yourself -- what I have had to do is limit contact to positive interactions only. I know my mother will never admit any thing ever happened much less that she did anything to me that was not right. Dump the guilt it is counterproductive.

Perhaps if you wrote a letter to mom that you never intend to send and tell her exactly what she did and how you feel about it, you could get beyond your pain. Anger at unfair treatment is not a bad thing as long as you don't allow yourself to be stuck there.

~D~