dahlia, once, when I as living with a family taking care of their kids, I had a friend who was taking advantage of my good nature and the Man of the house was trying to counsel me about it. I, from childhood conditioning, took his concern as judgement and found myself cowering, preparing for the onslaught of a stinging belt...... of course, this man would no more whip me than his own children.... it took me distance and a lot of therapy and work and making new good memories to crowd out the past to muffle the childhood reactions my limbic system programmed into me....

It gets better. )))))))))dahlia ((((((((