I believe that we can heal quite a bit concerning what we didn't get from our mothers. For me, I worked on 2 things that helped quite a bit. The first part is to complete any of the development that didn't occur like self worth, boundaries, learning how to express feelings, learning how to meet your needs, etc. All of these skills that you can acquire now will help YOU to take care of yourself. The other part is filling my life today with loving people. This fills the other hole. The biggest part of this is my husband. He is very, very good to me. Other people can love us and take care of us besides a mother. To get to this point I had to stop blocking love, though. We can do this after growing up in a dysfunctional family because we feel we don't deserve love or it scares us. You have to work through this.