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The closet narcissist does not feel that he
(she) can express grandiosity and self-centeredness directly and openly as the
brash, exhibitionistic narcissist does so well. The closet narcissist has the
same intrapsychic structure (a grandiose self-image fused with an omnipotent
parent-image) as the exhibitionist but the major emotional investment is not
in the grandiose self but in the omnipotent other. Therefore this patient does
not seek the mirroring of (her) grandiose self; rather he (she) idealizes the other and hopes to receive their admiration, or simply "basks in the other's glow."

From The Search for the Real Self
Unmasking the Personality Disorders of Our Age
James F. Masterson, M.D.
copyright 1988

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Welcome, again, to PC! Hope you feel more comfortable with your T soon so you can ask her what she means when she says things to you TC!