|
Aug 24, 2012, 04:49 PM
|
 |
|
|
Member Since: Apr 2012
Posts: 1,565
|
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by button30
Crescent Moon, again you have explained it perfectly. I can relate to your experience, in that you have learned not to rely on anyone as I too am in that stage now. I have been emotionally neglected all my life, starved of human intimacy even in relationships and now I can't let anyone near me because I am afraid. i know T can't offer me any of this but I am not sure how attaching to her and then letting her go can be good for me, especially now.
|
My therapist and I made a deal. I told her that the only way this thing will work, is if it's me who pushes away from her - not her pushing me out of the 'nest.' It's worked as well as I thought it would. She is real careful to make sure I don't feel like she's ready for me to go. I told her that if she would (figuratively) hold on to me tightly, that I would eventually push my own self away.
As time has gone on, I've done that. I remember in the beginning, she told me that she'd know I was getting better when I started cancelling sessions.. when I didn't have time for therapy. I only go weekly now, and only for one hour. I rarely call or email her between sessions anymore. And I don't really think about her or therapy between sessions either. I really have internalized her.. it's like I carry this faceless therapist within me, and it has become part of me.
So that's the goal, I think.. it just takes time.
__________________
|