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Originally Posted by Crescent Moon
My therapist and I made a deal. I told her that the only way this thing will work, is if it's me who pushes away from her - not her pushing me out of the 'nest.' It's worked as well as I thought it would. She is real careful to make sure I don't feel like she's ready for me to go. I told her that if she would (figuratively) hold on to me tightly, that I would eventually push my own self away.
As time has gone on, I've done that. I remember in the beginning, she told me that she'd know I was getting better when I started cancelling sessions.. when I didn't have time for therapy. I only go weekly now, and only for one hour. I rarely call or email her between sessions anymore. And I don't really think about her or therapy between sessions either. I really have internalized her.. it's like I carry this faceless therapist within me, and it has become part of me.
So that's the goal, I think.. it just takes time.
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THis is good news Crescent Moon, I like to hear about your positive experiences in therapy. They give me some hope that it can work with the right therapist.
I think for me personally one of the reasons why my therapy didn't work was because from the moment I met my T, I fell in love with her, I fought it so hard but the feelings just became more intense and I think on some level she was afraid of this...I am gay and she probably new I had feelings, I could not tell her certain things and it became really awkward and painful for me, i always felt ashamed and she really didn't help sometimes. T would always say things that hurt me, maybe it was tough love or something but some of her commments were cutting. I couldn't open up with her and have told my new T more in the two sessions I have seen her.