sometimes people think that their t is really really attractive - but they wouldn't be attracted to the person if they met them in a different context outside a therapy setting (without having done therapy with them). why? because sometimes attraction is more about transference than anything else. when you feel attracted to your t... who does your t remind you of?

sometimes... we project feelings that we have onto our t as well. so... we find our t attractive so we project those feelings onto our t and we come to think that our t finds us attractive.

sometimes... i think it can be about holding them at arms length. especially when there is SA in the past... being distracted because they are 'hot' is a way of... being distracted.

different people are different... but i thought i'd just get this out there for another perspective. typically one people don't like to think of / consider... but oh well...