I don't feel guilt and shame about cutting either. I might feel bad that it bothers my husband, but I don't actually feel bad about doing it, and I don't feel that feeling bad about it would be a good thing. I worry about how people might react to my scars, but I need them. I need the proof that I can look at that shows that my feelings are genuinely real and intense. Cutting may be counterproductive, and it may mean that we didn't give some other, more healthy coping method a chance, but sometimes it's better than what might have happened otherwise. It's a compromise.

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