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Originally Posted by growlycat
Ugh, I just had an extra phone session with my T this morning (we are on opposite coasts.)
He is pushing me to push myself more. I'm phobic of driving but manage to get to work, shopping, dr.'s and errands but beyond that I'm frozen. Also, social anxiety--trying to get myself to get out there more. He wants me to focus on my health and self-care more---If I hear the virtues of a daily workout again i'll scream.
Today I feel like "old stuff" is making me feel needy. He wasn't in an indulgent mood, he was more "life coach" than "T" today. I should appreciate the pushing but I just want to feel cared for for a few days before tackling this crap. Sometimes I wish we would revisit "old stuff" but sometimes I think he sees limited value in discussing the past, which is strange to say about a T.
When you are pushed by T, are you able to do the work? Right now, I'm not
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Sorry Growlycat. Getting pushed sucks, I know.
I am in a similar boat with old stuff. I've been very careful about bringing up the most difficult old stuff with my t because I sense he could be pushy enough to hurt too much, although sometimes he's supportive.
I have let the more difficult stuff from the past drop from the agenda in my mind as far as talking to t about it. My stuff from the past is not awful though. Does your t support you when you talk about your past? I hope so.
I think sometimes that whether t's are pushy or supportive is fairly random. They don't talk to us often enough to really match the pushiness or supportiveness to our day to day needs.
Anyway, I'm not exactly answering your question about doing the work. My t hasn't pushed me to do something specific, but I know I need to do the same things you're struggling over exercise, etc. I have had a harder time not sinking into depression when I'm being pushed sometimes, and then I don't do things like exercise and keep busy as much. I'm also trying to be gentle with myself more than I used to. My t never told me to do that but I listen to other people who are supportive to me, especially here on pc, and it helps me believe it's okay to do that. to be gentle with myself, I mean. even if I'm not doing the work as much as I think I should. I hope you will be able to be gentle with yourself and find a good balance with pushing yourself so that you come out feeling like you did the best you could. whether t manages to be well attuned to it or not.