Hi Special K,

If my T wasn't attracted to me I would be okay with it. I am not ugly so it didn't surprise me though, but what means a lot is that he likes me for me. You can tell when someone is faking, and he isn't .

My T is CBT and doesn't use transference like a psychoanalysis T would. In fact he doesn't encourage it at all. If it happens then we deal with it, but usually it was me worrying about him dying or something because he had some heart problems while at the gym and I was afraid when I saw him running around the track he would drop dead on me or something. So I don't think he planned that transference. But it did happened, because I have lost some special people in my life. I am not sure even that was tranference, because I was in fact worried about him because I care.

I think attraction just happens, he is cute really and I was attracted to him when I first met him, and some say I am somewhat attractive , so it isn't that unusual for it to happen. But it is what is in the inside that makes a person, and that is what I believe in because someone can be physically attractive, but inside they are a jerk or something, which to me, makes them unattractive.

I am studying to be a T , so I am fully aware of transference. But I also have a nack for seeing the real person in someone, and my T is being very real to me. In fact I am also becoming friends with some of his friends (that I didn' t know at the time), so people with simular interestes, do attract to one another. His friends don't know how I know him, but when his friends talk about their interestes including my T , then I know he is being real with me about them, and not making it up for transference sake..