((((Car)))) thank you for posting. It helps a lot to know others have experienced similar things in the world of weird and crazy-making family dynamics. I am working really hard right now on separating myself from them by No Contact (courtesy of DoNMs).

I could literally drop off the face of the planet right now and none of them would notice.

My mother was a master at triangulation and manipulation. I understand that now.

The only thing now that I feel I did "wrong" was to try to get them (for years and years and years) to see it and acknowledge it, too. But those were the enablers to the destructive behavior.

Rose