Well you just go and do it. When I was on 7 years ago, I matched up and went on a date with one guy and it was a disaster. I figured eharmony was terrible. But the guy I'm talking with now seems to have some promise- so far anyway. We're exchanging emails. My tips so far are that not everybody will work out and you'll have lots of one-date-onlies. And there's no substitute for honest time spent. As in years. It takes time to get to know someone. Even if you have everything in common.