It's interesting, I have seen more only children lately who when they get around others refuse to share anything they have......while I remember being an only child & everything I had was shared with others. I expected them to take care of my things while they were playing with them but as long as care was taken, sharing was definitely NOT a problem.....to this day I love to share things with others. I don't remember being taught to share....but I'm sure that teaching was there somewhere......I don't remember having to teach my daughter about sharing, & I never remember seeing her act as selfish about things as I have the younger only children of today.
Sometimes I think as parents we don't remember how our parents taught us values like that & think it just happened, so we don't think about having to teach our children until is shows up as something not very nice when they end up around others or between bro & sister. Maybe if the parents aren't around their children that much during play time, (both working full time & not spending much time around them otherwise), they really don't know how bad the selfishness actually is....if might be a good thing for you to bring up to them that you have noticed this issue occurring between then so they can be aware of dealing with it....sometimes parents shut out bickering if they have had a long week at work & don't really end up dealing with it.
I think the idea of telling them that the toys are to be shared of they are taken away until they are ready to share is a good starting place.....& explaining why sharing is a good thing & the right thing to do. Definitely not an easy job or one that a baby sitter should have to be doing....but it is what it is & you do need to deal with it in the best training way possible so they can learn in a nice way that sharing is what they need to do in caring for each other.
__________________
Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
|