(((creativelight)))

I am sorry to hear about your struggles with your husband.

I do have PTSD, as well as a few other mental health troubles, but I'm having some difficulty understanding what your hub's perspective is on sex with you. Do you know what triggered your hub's PTSD? How long he's struggled with the illness? Is your hub currently working with a T? Or taking medications to help manage the anxiety that he feels?

What are the other triggers for your hub? Is he working towards overcoming any of his triggers right now, or simply trying to accept that he has PTSD?

How far along are you in your pregnancy? Is he involved in planning, or is the entire concept too stressful for your hub to take part of? Personally, I felt pretty darn sexy when I was pregnant! We lived in a very HOT area then, so I'd wear a bikini & go swimming daily. I also went for long walks daily and ate healthy meals, to stay fit. My hub (at that time) seemed to think that I was pretty sexy as well. We tried different positions, to make things more comfortable or me as well. He took me from behind, which seems to be a common favorite position for men. Oral sex was another release for him (and myself).

I wish you both the best. It must be very stressful for you to feel like you aren't sexy enough to interest your hub anymore. My heart aches for you, just thinking about it! If this negative behavior continues despite my suggestions, I'd certainly recommend seeing a marriage counselor to help both of you work through the resulting emotions. PTSD does suck ~ but his infatuation with "perfect women" sure isn't helping strengthen your marriage and commitment to one another. You deserve better.