Mr.Utopia, sorry I misunderstood the part about her getting help impacting your reputation.

Would she be willing to go on medication that either removes the alcohol cravings or makes her physically ill if she drinks? I can't remember the name of the new medication that came out last year. Check out www.CenterWatch.com and look up the newly approved drugs listings. It's the one that combats cravings, unlike Antabuse that makes you violently ill.

My ex husband was a binge drinker. He could go months without having more than his usual 4-6 beers a night, but every so often he'd think he was invincible and could handle a case at a time. I'm honestly surprised he didn't kill himself or anyone else in that condition since he'd drive while he was blacked out. He'd cry and beg forgiveness that it would never happen again, and then the cycle would start all over again. He really didn't think he had a problem and wasn't hurting anyone. Even getting a $1000 DUI fine, spending a night in jail, and having his license suspended for 9 months didn't impact him.

Maybe you can check out the substance abuse forum and get some more insight. From what I understand, no one gets better until they want to get better. I'm sorry that as far down as she's gone she still hasn't hit rock bottom. I can only imagine you're wondering how much worse it can get.

Maybe this is drastic and out of line, but could you possibly tape record, audio or video, her when she's like this so you could show her and/or a healthcare provider? If it's obvious she's a danger to self or others and you have proof, you might be able to get her admitted involuntarily.