Pynk,
I so, so know what you're going through. I know it isn't a big consolation, but I understand. That's why I was so glad to move. I couldn't leave the house either because of memories. It's so hard.... Look on eBay for a book by Jon Kabet-Zinn called Mindfullness Meditation. He is one of the forefathers of DBT. He also has a CD with the meditations on it but I recommend getting the book first. He started a meditation class geared towards people who were suffering long term or even terminal illnesses brought on my stress. It was where I started. When I first started the meditations several months ago, i wasn't really mindful...I would start disassociating instead, but regardless, it helped me through the day. I have learned since how to move it on the correct direction. I think if you did the Mindfullness Meditation for a while by itself, it would make the DBT training so smoother. I KNOW it's hard, I'm there myself. You're NOT alone.