hi everyone
I really need some advice on my relationship. My husband of 18 years had an affair last year. I am still trying to get over it but find it very hard to forgive him, because I've always put him and our children first I didn;t even know we were having problems. But now he is putting all the blame on me for why he had an affair it is very confussing for me am I to blame for his affair, I just don't know. I don't feel as if I am responsable but I don't know. any advice please

Thank you