By accepting I have something I can't control alone, I've made it easier to live with. This doesn't mean I think that by accepting it it defines me OR that it will go away.

I think the issues in this thread are that we all experience our illness differently and regardless of how we cope, we all need to learn to cope; it doesn't go away. It's like willing diabetes away. Wishful thinking doesn't make it so. For some, believing its a flaw to be worked on might work. For others, simply making it day by day works. And then there are still others who embrace it as part of who they are and that works.

Generalizing any part of any mental illness will land you in a bad place.