I was hung up on the name too, but it's pointless. If you think you're borderline, then you have some idea what kinds of symptoms you're dealing with, right? Don't you care more about getting a handle on the symptoms than finding the right category to describe them?

Three years ago, my therapist finally relented and admitted I was schizoid. A couple of months ago, she changed her mind and told me I have Asperger's (which I don't wanna accept...lol). Guess what? Fairly soon, neither of those "names" will be in the DSM anymore. Does that mean I'm suddenly going to be perfectly normal and problem-free? No. It means I'll get another name. My therapy won't change though. Hopefully.

So your therapist doesn't want to name the 800-lb elephant in the room. I know how frustrating that is, but maybe at this point, naming you is not important. Maybe she wants to get to know you longer before pinning you with a label like "borderline".

You can find people who will give you a name the second you walk in the door, but their competency in treating people sucks.