Kathy, I, too have problems with mother's using filler foods to quiet a baby. When AJ was born he came out "screaming" and he has never stopped. He kept me awake many nights. I never gave him filler foods. AJ's dad wasn't any help either. He never held him. In fact, AJ's dad was never "alone" with him. If I even walked outside and AJ was in the same room as his dad, his dad would would scream from me to return...

I don't have sympathy for her. Although, I do have "compassion" for her as I can remember those exhausting days and nights I experienced when AJ was a newborn.
And I agree, filler foods is no excuse for an exhausted mom...

Weight isn't a problem with the baby.. So there is "NO" reason for her to being feeding him rice cereal.. Made me smile when you said she needs to survive "boot camp." She is struggling. She is trying.. I hope she survives "boot camp". Can say she is grumpy a lot. She only spends weekends here. She was so grumpy on Sunday that AJ retreated to the basement and napped on the sofa.. He retreated because there is "no" reasoning with her, so when he gets frustrated he retreats to quieter grounds..

In my opinion, she has it easy. She lives with her parents and her mom helps her during the day with taking care of the baby. Guess night shift is mama's. And geesh she makes mega dollars which is a plus. I'd be on cloud nine if I ever earned the money she makes. Talk about being "independent" ...Yet she is very "dependent" on others...



Come to think of it, I was in the hospital less than 24 hours. AJ's dad practically dumped both AJ and me at the foot of the apartment and went back to work. That was only the beginning for me. lol...AJ was crying and hungry. My first son was hungry. And I was crying and hungry. NO help for weeks until I broke down and asked my mother for help. She came the following week.. Think she stayed for a week or two, Mom always came when we shouted out for help.. Mom was a lot of help. But she also complained a lot too. lol
Why did I have a baby when there is going to be a water shortage. Gotta love her tho. Even tho she didn't really like me a lot.. lol