Hi Setso, my husband and I are also playing GW2 and I have been playing MMOs for 12 years, so I can give you some advice on this point.

First off, don't trust everyone who says "I'm a girl" on the internet for two reasons. I know plenty of male players who use the "I'm a girl" to get special treatment (like help with quests, free crafted items, even gold...) And second off, any actual girl running around on a game saying, "I'm a girl gamer," you also need to be wary of them. Some girls like to announce they are girls because they are looking for specific male attention.... as in... lots of it and in certain ways.... but also to use her "femaleness" to use that attention to be mean. Or they are just doing it to feel somehow supperior. (This doesn't mean all of them, but you should be cautious of anyone who is very vocal about being female.) Most mature girls and women I know who play games never say they are, and if someone calls them a "he" they don't freak out: "OMG I'm FEMALE!" Nope, it doesn't matter. You can call me "he, him, dude, guy, man," and I don't care.

Next, a lot of people on the internet are rude and do not understand common etiquet or courtisey. You never know the age of anyone even if they tell you their age. And in the gaming community there is a lot of immaturity. So don't take it personally if someone doesn't respond to a whisper or a tell, just chalk it up to the fact that they are either AFK, they are busy and not paying attention, or they are in an area where chat is heavy and maybe they didn't see it.

Next: "I sent her 10 messages and she didn't reply and then she put me on her ignore list." Okay, first off you need to think about what you said to her start out with. Was it along the lines of "Hi, you're a girl and I want a girlfriend." Or was it more like "Hey, do you want to help me with this skill point event?" If it was #1, there is a huge chance she's not going to respond to you, and most girls won't. If it's the second, then you can assume either a) she maybe didn't see it, try 1 more time or b) she's rude and just move on. I don't know how old you are, but there is a certain scene in the movie Swingers with Vince Vaughn where a guy leaves like 30 messages on a girl's voice mail, and she finally calls him and says "Don't call me anymore."

Last, "I'm a nice guy and no girl will ever love me and only go for a jerk." No no no. Relationships don't work like this. Rejection happens a lot more often than acceptance. You can be the nicest guy on the planet but if a girl isn't interested she isn't interested. Aren't there girls you're not interested in? Rushing things doesn't work. And if you give in to this you could easily become the "doormat" boyfriend. You know girls can be jerks who treat their boyfriends like crap, too. And, focusing so hard on getting a girl isn't how it works. Because you focus in on one person who isn't interested and people who are interested just walk right passed you, and so there are all these girls running around going "I really liked that guy but he was only interested in that b*** who treats him like crap and wasn't interested in him."

So, tips for making friends in a game.... 1) Join a guild. 2) Join parties and be relaxed, confidant and yourself. 3) If you join the guild, then join the forum and be an active and helpful member. 4) Level a craft and offer to craft things for friends or guildmates. 5) Don't start flame wars and keep too much negativity to yourself, it's a game world, after all. If you're depressed it's better to just keep it to yourself on a game. It's better to wait until you're good friends with someone before revealing that. 6) Don't expect someone to be your girlfriend, just try to make friends. This is also true because it is a game world and not necessarily a place you will meet someone who lives near you. Get to know them and if it happens it happens and if not it wasn't meant to be.