I am sorry to share the club of the primary abuser being the mother. I also have strong feelings about what neglect and refusing to allow feelings does to a child, a person, a human. Mothers are so let off the hook but not by me. I tell people she is dead but she is not. However, she does not have the power to hurtme anymore. I am safe from her and I can be a loving mom and a loving caring woman. She is a decrepit old crap of a person and lives her own hell daily.