I have been a victim of sexual abuse since I was four, and I know just how hard this was and is for you. I applaud you for standing up to your father, which in my opinion should get the chair.

I have learned after many many years of searching for answers about 'why' this happened to me. I've done everything from blaming myself, and living in shame, to feeling ok with myself, and the feelings I have when it comes to sex...

The one thing i learned is that many, if not all, sexual predators were victims in their past. As ashamed as I am of being human...I mean this because there is so much violence in this world that I cannot understand why people like hurting others...I will say this...history repeats itself. The only thing that separates victims from being abusers in adulthood is how they choose to deal with it, and just deciding if they want to continue the circle of abuse. Well, that's my opinion anyways.

I do encourage you to speak out...because silence really is a killer. And by keeping silent you are letting your father abuse you even more than he already has.