I can offer a totally different perspective on this. I'm 42, my wife is 39, and we have been together for 18 years...married 13 years. We have 3 children. My wife is bi-sexual. I knew this before we got married. My wife has always had a girlfriend, and they have always been long term relationships. Her current girlfriend of 8 years is also married. This has never been a problem in our marriage. I know she will never leave me. I have no insecurities about this. My wife feels a need to be with both sexes and I have no problem giving her this indulgence.

It is a very private part of her life and very few people know. I do not brag about it to my friends. Those who do know have asked all the questions. I do not like the term "open marraige" because our marraige is not open for anyone to come and go as they please. There is no free for all sex thing happening. I've been asked what will we tell the kids? To me this is a stupid question....We would not discuss our ordinary sex life with our kids....why is the world would we ever feel the need to discuss this with them. It's not like their mom is making out with another woman on the couch in front of them. My wife shows no more affection towards her girlfriend outside the bedroom than she does to any other close friend and vice versa....it is private.

I must say that I do enjoy watching two women together...it's hot....the fact that one is my wife and I can join in if i choose is even hotter. I only have sex with my wife because I have no desire to be with another woman. Been there, done that. My wife is hot and I am sexually attracted to her and her only. My wife's girlfriend and her husband also have the same arrangement. I never worry if my wife is going to be with him because she has no desire to be with another man.

This is our arrangement and it works for us. I have seen others try and it fall apart. We have been together for a long time...so for us....we must be doing something right.

Sorry I was so long winded...it just kinda bothers me when people think that monogamous is the only way to be. I see monogamous relationships break up every day. Everyone has to find and do what works and is right for them. Just offering a different perspective.