PC is a large community with many unique individuals participating it its fuction and success. Being that, it's going to be a *rare* instance when *everyone* agrees on every point on each thread within all forums...leading to my point that it's natural to assume there are going to be disagreements (sometimes heated ones on sensitive issues).

When disagreements happen please consider a few things...we have complete control regarding our reactions and how we manage them, we have complete control in avoiding a topic or person that might take away from our experience here, and we have a responsibility to exercise these.

If we disagree with someone, it's fine to state that so long as it's stated without accusation and flame. We've had many good debates here and I've learned alot...when the debate/disagreement carries a mutual respect by all involved. If you feel too angry, upset, triggered, etc. to respond within the guidelines, save the post you wish to make to your computer, move on to other threads or step away from the computer or something, then come back an hour or so later and re-read what you wanted to submit and check it to see if it's within the guidelines. That's our individual responsibility, but also something we can expect in return.

If a thread pushes all the wrong buttons for us, it might be better to avoid it. If a member here pushes all the wrong buttons for us, it might be best to ignore that member and their posts until we feel ok with them.

Not only do we gain SOOOO much from PC in that we can find support, relation, information, care and so much more here, we have a responsibility as a member to insure we treat every other member here with respect. If we feel we can't do that, it might be best to avoid any situation that keeps us from gaining the self-help we come here for.

Please remember to keep posts supportive and within the guidelines. If we suspect a post might not be, please wait a bit, then re-read it and edit it accordingly.

Let's be kind to one another. If someone is unkind, put them on ignore, then contact a mod/admin, and continue to gain what is needed.

In saying that we have control, I'm referring to the wonderful tools that have been given us here to utilize for our own self-care. Only we can control that usage and making them work for us.

Ultimately our PC experience is at our own fingertips for the most part.

KD