Hi Inkblot,

Being able to say no and to be firm and to stand up to people, even when you are afraid, might be something to work towards, because if you have those skills then you will be able to protect yourself better. But you are not at fault for what happened to you. I don't know the details, but I'm postive that the guy knew you did not want or consent to what he did. Right? And I don't believe that the police interpret a situation in which the victim of a crime was too much in shock to have the ability to protest to be consensual either.

About this new neighbor, what does he write in the notes? Has he threatened you? Sometimes you might have a sense that something isn't right and somebody is a danger to you, but other times it might be a reaction based on your past experience. I don't have enough information to interpret this situation. But if you don't feel safe, don't hesitate to tell someone who can help you.

(((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))

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