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Originally Posted by LiveThroughThis
The fact for me is I've never known how to let my anger out in a constructive way (never learned it from parents), so I don't know what's healthy for me.
I've tried hitting pillows---just makes it worse. I've tried a punching bag--just amped me up.
I suppose loooots of cardio, and maybe some weight lifting.
If it's not adrenaline based and simply a mood/pissed off, I try to vent it online or in a journal.
Growing up my mom always told me, "That's no reason to be angry." So I realized early on I don't "deserve" to ever be angry. Therefore, when I do get angry/pissed (not the adrenaline kind), I don't always know what to do with it----"Uh...you're here, annnd, um, you goin' away? Cause I don't know what you want me to do about it....sit in it perhaps?"----me talking to my anger.
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I feel for that. My upbringing was on the opposite end, but just as non-constructive. My family let their anger out in very loud and volatile (usually not to another person, but around them) way. I learned that if you get mad, you assault someone somehow. I had to learn not to do that anymore, and still really struggle with that. For me, exercise only works me up more. Journalling or telling people about it helps a lot.