Thank-you, Emmy. Therapy should not be a source of new trauma, but for me it has been several times. It's probably largely my own fault. In the beginning I was not able to communicate effectively. Besides that, long-standing low level depression with periodic deeper sinkholes just doesn't command that much attention, especially when you come from a moderately dysfunctional family that doesn't have anything that stands out enough to raise red flags, but just believes in keeping everything quiet.

I got decent grades, didn't cause trouble, was lucky enough not to get mixed up with the wrong crowds, didn't get involved with drugs or alcohol or behavior problems and tended to just quietly exist in the background. And since we were a military family and never stayed anyplace for very long, why should anyone have noticed me or taken an interest in me? So what if I might have had some potential to be somebody and couldn't access that potential? What difference did it make if I spent my life in quiet misery? At least I wasn't bothering anybody.

Oops, there I go again. Sorry - getting off topic. Do I sound like I've had enough therapy? Why should anything really change? I might have been heading in the right direction. I guess that looked good enough.

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Anyway, thanks Emmy for this thread and for your responses to me. It means a lot for somone to just acknowledge my experiences in this area. A thread about termination is a good idea.

<font color=orange>There is an easy answer to your problem that is neat, plausible, and wrong.

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