Yes, I've had trouble with this too. For me, I stopped saying "we" when my mother said "who are you, the Queen of England? you are not a royal "we" so stop saying that". And being young and submissive, I did stop saying it. Didn't stop thinking it.

It is just in the recent past when I have acknowledged being DID to my husband that I have allowed myself to say "we" in front of him. And sometimes now it will slip out without thinking. I'm really not sure how to handle it either. I don't think I'm brave enough (or maybe healed enough?) to be out there IRL with DID.

Elizabeth