Hi Scorpio. It's a cop out and he is avoiding all responsibility. *He* made the decision to be unfaithful, not you. He was not forced into that. He made a conscious decision.

If he felt something was lacking in your relationship or if he felt there was a problem, he should have behaved like a responsible person and talk it through with you. He didn't.

The question now is where he wants to go from here (stay in a commited relationship with his wife, or use a cop-out). But also, you have to decide whether you still want to be with him and/or can trust him?

So please, do *not* take the brunt of his 'actions'!