I respect your effort of trying to forgive him and trying to stick together for the kids but....I am a kid of a mother who went through the same thing. Have your kids found out about this yet? Do they suspect? Me and my brother accidentally discovered it and we are really torn about how to feel for both of our parents. They are our parents and we love them but both of us feel disgust for our father for doing this and pitty for our mom for putting up with it. I still don't agree with my mother's way of dealing with this. If your kids find out, then it really doesn't matter if you try to stick together with him or not. One thing is for sure, if this thing ever happens to me, I will not tolerate it, kids or no kids. I will not see myself going through the same ordeal as my mom. I am still angry at her for not standing up for herself!