thanks for the support damaj & petunia..

and also myself.. just a clarification.. i wasnt asking anyone to stop arguing or change their behavior for me. I am just posting about how it influences me which i think is more productive. I don't think I can just ignore someone here being picked on. Its too ingrained in me. I feel like to watch it and know about it and not do something is equal to being the one hurting someone. Thanks for the input though.