We haven't had the 'one step back yet', but I'm trying not to get my hopes up that it won't happen.

We're making some good progress. I found an Adult ADD coach who happens to live just a few blocks from our house. My husband and I went through her website, and corresponded by email with her a few times before committing to an initial session. He wants me to go with him for the first one, and if he decides to continue, then he'll go on his own afterward, at least once a week, maybe more. She's not free, but not as expensive as I had feared, either, and she has a LOT of good experience with male adult ADD.

The other step forward regards my husband and school. In our last T session, our T concluded that if looking for jobs and applying for schools was easy for my husband, then he would have already done it. He's far from lazy, but he gets extremely frustrated and agitated when faced with a job hunt or filling out an application. Only recently did we make the connection between this struggle and ADD. Anyway, as much as I had been resisting helping him with such things (because previously, our former and current T had said that he needs to learn to do it himself), our T now is saying that he needs to accept and learn to recognize his limitations and figure out ways to compensate, whether it be asking for help with filling out applications, or seeing if there are alternate methods for achieving the same goal.

So, now my husband's job is to:
1) spend 15 minutes a day on the computer looking for jobs and schools, just for data gathering and desensitization (so that the concept doesn't build up inordinate amounts of anxiety and pressure). He doesn't have to accomplish anything other than look, but he is responsible for doing it each day.
2) Spend one hour per day with me doing the same. With the school applications, I read out loud and type, but he has to make the decisions. We had tried this in the past, and it always ended in tears. So, my T's goal for him is to stick through the entire hour, without giving up and walking away. So far so good. We submitted a form for an art school, asking for an appointment to take a tour, and they just called and he talked to them for about 15 minutes, and set a time for a tour and interview next Monday.

MY job is to:
1) stick to the time limit. This means that even if we're only 5 minutes away from finishing what we're working on, I need to respect the time limit and let him go when the hour is up if he doesn't want to keep going. This is hard for me -- I always end on a high note when I do my own work.
2) be careful to always let HIM make the decisions instead of trying to influence his answers. This is also hard for me, because I'm much more comfortable with risk than he is.

Progress!