Ok, so here's my question to a few of the adults in this forum who have expressed their disappointment that their spouses were unsupportive:

What should I do about the fact that while my husband has had a TERRIFICALLY productive day otherwise, he hasn't spent his 15 minutes doing his job/school search yet but is off to participate in a bike race? I'm not sure how much this has to do with ADD as it does his anxiety about doing things that perhaps the ADD makes difficult for him, but if you had ADD and I was your wife, what should I do? Let our T deal with it? Ignore it? Ask him about it?

This is where I get stuck - either I'm nagging or I'm enabling. I can't win no matter what approach I try.