I think everyone has covered all the things I would say to you, but I want to say this one thing again.

You are NOT horrible because horrible things happened to you. I think you're really brave for saying it in front of her even if it was a slip up. I told the most painful shameful thing I have in an email recently because I wasn't brave enough to say it. I'm still not and right now I'm processing other stuff. I guess we'll get to it when I'm ready. I think your doing great and should be proud of yourself.

You kind of are super hero

Well I guess that was more than one thing .