i'm in disagreement here. Sometimes countertransference means that the T feels the feelings that the client is in denial about. For example, this T feeling something in her gut could be demonstrating her empathy for the OP's "horrible deed". Lorna gives us 4 main points of her life - why do you think they are unrelated? Why does her BF sleeping with their mutual GF cause such anguish if Lorna really is okay with it? Lorna, you can't have it both ways - on the one hand, T tells you straight out she cannot be JUST your sex therapist - in her opinion, there are other things in your life that need addressing; she ACCEPTS that you are unwilling to look at those things; she feels in HER gut that you have unresolved feelings (as do i) and is not going to fight with you or try to change your mind or see things her way. She is just not going to continue to work with you, and she explains to you and your doctor why. This is perfectly reasonable after the first 3 sessions of getting to know someone.

On the other hand, if you were interested in opening up and looking your entire life, and HAD gone past the initial sessions, then the contract for her not to terminate would apply.

I'm saying, look at; I'm not judging. But having had parents who associated love with pain, yeah, I feel entitled to judge a little bit. It's yucky from the kids' side, just in case.