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Originally Posted by Psychicbaby323
I think I can learn to meet my own needs. I haven't known how to love and nurture myself. What has stopped me from doing that is a) not knowing how b) feeling that I don't deserve to have my needs met and c) getting, stuck in thinking like "well I do all this stuff for you and know what you need, what is wrong with me that I can't get it back?"
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This is good insight. I would say that identifying your needs is the first step.
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Originally Posted by Psychicbaby323
when H is around I struggle. He is really angry with me. I don't want to be angry with him anymore. I am ready to move on, but he keeps pushing my buttons. What really gets me going is the lack of consideration.
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Have you ever discussed with T the buttons he is pushing? I always look at this as areas to heal. I'm sorry that he isn't considerate. Do you think maybe that there is a cycle going on, he is inconsiderate, you explode, he retaliates by being inconsiderate?