Thanks Logan - I appreciate your feedback. I try to be supportive, because I do have a lot of faith in my husband that he wants things to be different for himself, but struggles to figure out a way to do it.

Looking for a job is boring for ANYONE, btw!

Congratulations about your en route baby!

The problem with the bike race is that it starts at 7:30pm and predictably, he's way too tired when he gets home at 10. So I knew when I saw him getting his bike stuff together that fulfilling his end of the bargain was not going to happen that day

I just want him to try. If he doesn't reach his goals, that's ok, but he needs to try. But yes, I do agree with you -- if he doesn't get his bike hours in, he is also miserable and antsy, and face it -- it's not exactly a vice. I'm glad that he had a healthy way of letting off steam.

Anyway, we have the appointment with the ADD coach on Thursday and his tour/interview with the art school on Monday, so hopefully we're heading down the right path.

Logan - would it be helpful if your wife joined a support group for spouses of ADHD/ADD'ers? I don't know of one, but I'd be happy to look and/or participate with her. Originally, I joined a support group for spouses/SO's of people with depression, and for a while, it was helpful to me to connect with other people who could relate, and hear from more seasoned spouses who had reached the point where they had the energy to share their education and compassion.

Thanks again Logan