to be honest, i cant get off on regular sex either. i have to be tied up with a blindfold, and only then can i really concentrate on the feeling. if i think for just a second on the person trying to get me, i lose it. but if i concentrate solely on a fantasy i have constructed and feel whats going on down there it becomes easier to cum.

you should try with your eyes closed at first, just concentrating on the feeling down there it could help.

ive been taking zoloft since before i was sexually active, so i cant say either way if its making any difference.