Hey Sabrina,

First of all I'm sorry you're going through this, it's hard (I have a parent with alcoholism who is still active as well as the disease myself).

Secondly, it's not your responsibility to get her sober. Unfortunately she will have to do this on her own. You *can* however distance yourself, DONT enable her destructive behavior and her disease BUT support any shots at sobriety and recovery.

I would definitely recommend going to al-anon, they are an extremely supportive group of people who will help you cope with your mom's alcoholism and help keep YOU safe. Look in your local paper and try going to a meeting, you will be welcomed with friendly faces.

When I was still an active drinker, I had many people 'attempt' to get me sober, I even had somewhat of an intervention. I continued to drink. I had people break ties with me and leave my life who were important to me. I continued to drink. I had people willing to drive me to meetings, go with me, set me up with a drug/alcohol counsellor and offer to stay at my house so they could 'make sure I didn't drink.' I continued to drink.

When I finally hit bottom (a horrible thing) that is when I had to get my butt to AA and start getting sober, for myself. I had to do it on my own, there was no way around that.

I can only suggest to keep yourself sane and safe and go talk to others with experience who are in your situation. This will help take the weight off of your shoulders. Best wishes.