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I've been thinking about this...
For me, a couple of the main things that allow me to let me emotions surface (and I'm talking specifically in session as it is meant to be a safe place to learn this).
Trust:
I trust my therapist - she has created a safe space.
I trust the process - once i stopping trying to understand and control the process and just let it unfold
I trust the theraputic relationship - this is part of the safe space - it contains the acceptance and compassion and non-judgement from my therapist.
Control:
Letting go of control. Stop trying to be who I think I should be or feel what I think I should feel. I've learned that my feelings and emotions are valid... and there's not enough room inside me to keep them contained. I've learned it's ok to let them out and I've learned a lot about myself in doing so.
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Happiness cannot be found
through great effort and willpower,
but is already present,
in open relaxation and letting go.
Don't strain yourself,
there is nothing to do or undo.
Whatever momentarily arises
in the body-mind
Has no real importance at all,
has little reality whatsoever.
Don't believe in the reality
of good and bad experiences;
they are today's ephemeral weather,
like rainbows in the sky.
~Venerable Lama Gendun Rinpoche~
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