cafeblues

I think you will have to come out and say that it did hurt you more then it helped you, them going about the things that they''ve said to you didn't help your situation. Tell them that you appreciate them sharing their stories but for right now you are looking for support, hopefully they wont be offended my this.

I think the ones that have been through this will be ok with it, they know how it feels , they can somewhat relate to the things you are going through, avoiding them I think will just make them wonder more, sitting and talking to at least one of them you'll feel better, and again hopefully they will be understanding about it. Maybe then they will go about it differently next time.

That's what I would do, no one really knows details with me, my shrink knows and that is basically it. A couple people know that I was in an abusive relationship, but not in details, I like to keep it that way, that comfort level is just not there. Plus my ptsd is very minimal now so I don't feel the need to come out and talk about it, unless something did bother me, just dealing with reminants of it, but it's gone for now, there is always something out of the blue that triggers me, but even those are less.

Take care, and good luck with your friends, I do think that you should talk to them. It will be hard, but I think letting them know this you'll feel better.

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